It’s difficult to stand up for yourself, especially when your career or a relationship is on the line. Being an adult doesn’t make it any simpler, and you frequently have to consider how speaking out for yourself could influence your life. However, there are occasions when standing up for yourself is necessary to maintain your self-esteem, decency, and integrity.
Enabling a situation to fester or allowing someone to work all over you may seem like the easy way out, but it will not fix the problem. Here are a few examples of when it’s critical to speak out for yourself.
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When Should You Stand Up For Yourself?
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Is there a reason you should stand up for yourself? Of course there are reasons you should.
It is crucial to stand up for yourself. Here are some reasons when you should stand up for yourself and how to go about it.
1. When You’re Injured By Someone Else’s Wrongdoing
Being hurt is the last thing anyone wants to cope with. Your injury might sometimes be caused by someone else’s carelessness or bad behavior. When this happens, it’s important to ensure that people pay the repercussions of their actions (or inactions), especially if it means you’ll be unable to cover your industry’s costs.
It’s possible that you’ll need to contact the police or employ a lawyer. Lawyers can assist you with surgical medical malpractice lawsuits as well as other types of carelessness disputes. They may also be able to assist you with insurance or criminal concerns.
2. When Family Or Friends Try To Take Charge
Managing friendships and family connections can be tough. Even when they are attempting to help you, they may go about it incorrectly. Because you love them and value your connection with them, then it may be difficult to say no or tell them to back off. When they’re making you miserable, though, it’s critical that you speak out for yourself.
If you can’t tell your close relatives or friends what you actually think, your relationship or yourself may need to be examined more closely.
For example, if they are encouraging you to settle down with your partner and pushing their way into decisions you want to make alone, you need to learn to stand up for yourself.
There are many ways you can do this, such as taking the time to look at a guide to David Morris jewellery or simply being up front with them and asking them calmly but firmly to let you make your own life decisions.
3. When You’re Being Discriminated Against
I was almost drowning in a patriarchy system at my former place of work. but had to stand up for myself on numerous occasions but one day, I decided that my mental health is more important than my take home pay.
I resigned and have never looked back. The best decision I have ever taken in my life so far was that decision!
You need to stand up for yourself when you are being discriminated against.
Discrimination can take many forms, and anybody can be a victim of it. It’s generally due to a personal attribute, such as your race, gender, or sexuality, that someone treats you differently.
You don’t have to be a member of a minority group to be discriminated against. If you believe someone is treating you unfairly because of who you are, the first step is to gather proof and determine the potential repercussions. Is there a witness who can back you up if you’re at work, for example?
What does the law say about discrimination, what it is, and how it should be handled, and what does your employer say about it?
Don’t back down from situations like these, especially if they’re making you unhappy or negatively affecting your life. Stand up for yourself when it matters the most!
10 Ways: How To Stand Up For Yourself
There are several ways to stand up for yourself and I will be sharing 10 ways that you can do it.
I am an advocate for ‘learning to say NO” and “stopping people pleasing.
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It is crucial to stand up for yourself. Here are some reasons when you should stand up for yourself and how to go about it
1. Ask Yourself Why You Find It Difficult To Stand Up For Yourself
Finding the root cause of a problem and eliminating it, ensures that the problem does not reoccur. This is true for everything.
To begin the journey of standing up for yourself, you must first identify why you find it hard to do so. It could be rooted in your childhood and teenage years, the environment you grew up in, the kind of people you relate with.
When, you are able to pin point the cause of your inability to stand up for yourself, standing up for yourself, will begin to happen naturally because it will become part of your consciousness.
2. Get Used To The Idea Of A New You
You have been this person who would rather let people walk all over you than stand up for yourself for so long but now you want to change all that.
Getting used to the idea of being this new authentic you is the next step. You need to get used to being assertive, get used to being someone who speak their minds when it is necessary to do so.
3. Learn Self Love and Self Care
Learn to be a bit more selfish when it comes to you. You need to learn to love yourself and practice self care. That way, you won’t always have to make your life about everyone else while you put yourself in the back burner.
When you make your life be about everyone else, there is the tendency for you to let things slide and let people get away with just about anything. Self love and self care will make you understand what self worth is and you will become more self aware. I hope that makes sense?
Self love and self care will build your Self Esteem and Confidence levels and these are the most important factors you need to stand up for yourself.
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4. Learn Right Timing
I have had instances where people tried and also succeeded in putting me down and I have learned over the years that when you react immediately, you might end up making yourself look bad while the person goes ‘scot free”. That is when timing comes into place.
When you need to stand up for yourself, you need to learn the art of timing. It is better to address/confront whomever when you know they will be more willing to listen to you and not just throw your thoughts, feelings and emotions aside. When you do this, they will definitely understand and respect you. However, some persons are difficult especially narcisicists. They will never listen to you.
The best would be to be assertive and remove yourself from such situation.
5. Learn To Say No More Often
If you find yourself saying YES to everything and everyone when you need to actually say NO, then you have a problem and you need to address it. People pleasing is a recipe for failure, girl. Of course, there are times you say yes but when saying yes is your “go to” solution to avoid saying No so the other party can be happy while you remain unhappy, then you need to unlearn all that.
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6. Understand that Standing Up For Yourself Is Not About Being Apologetic
I think one of the things that hold us back in life is wanting to apologize for who we are when it shouldn’t be so. Standing up for yourself is not being apologetic. Learn to be deliberate with your words, do not be apologetic when you choose to stand up for yourself. Be specific and speak your mind.
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7. Choose Your Battles Wisely
Remember, standing up for oneself does not mean being confrontational about everything. There are mundane things and one off issues you should definitely let go but when an “abuse”, a “put down” becomes commonplace and repetitive, then you need to be more assertive and stand up for yourself.
So, choose your battles wisely.
8. Learn To Set Boundaries
Girl, you are not for everyone. Set boundaries. When you set boundaries, people will learn to respect them and this will make standing up for yourself easier. Setting boundaries include letting people know the things you will not tolerate, things you do not want to be said to/about you.
I personally do not appreciate vulgar conversations. It is a huge turn off for me especially when it is from men and about women’s bodies. My friends and family know not to talk like that around me. This is an example of setting boundaries.
Go on and set boundaries. Healthy boundaries. When people try to ‘overstep’ such boundaries, you will be in a better position to stand up for yourself than when you do not set boundaries.
Setting boundaries will train and teach people how to treat you.
9. You Know What They Say About Practicing and Commitment
Practice makes perfect. That is the saying. No Self Growth and Personal Development journey is easy. It takes practice, commitment and dedication to leave point A to B and this is one of such journey.
You have to keep practicing, girl and commit to this new you.
Science says, it takes sixty six days to form a new habit, so give this time. Standing up for yourself will become a natural part of you when it becomes a fully formed habit.
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10. Consider Others
We all deserve to be respected so you deserve to be respected. By friends, colleagues, family and even strangers. In standing up for yourself, consider others also. Make an effort to understand their thought processes, feelings and what motivates them.
Putting those factors into consideration will help you choose your battles wisely like we discussed above and will teach you when you absolutely need to stand up for yourself.
Respect yourself, respect others and know you deserve to be respected too.
Conclusion: How To Stand Up For Yourself
Standing up for yourself can be difficult. Be it at the workplace or during social interactions, one needs to be sure that they are speaking up on their own behalf. There is a need for your voice, thoughts and emotions to be understood by those around you and this can only happen when you learn to stand up for yourself. I hope these tips will help you do just that.
What a great way to start weekend. For someone like me work in an industry that’s male dominated, this timely piece is highly appreciated. No 4,5 and 8 is it for me. Thank you, Jennifer. As always, a great read.