Body Shaming: 5 Reasons Why People Do it!




So what exactly is BODY SHAMING?

“Hi everyone. So, I met Caro on a Facebook page, we connected and she asked if I could guest post on her blog. I agreed. This is actually the first time I am guest posting on a blog.

We were brainstorming on what to write about and she suggested “body shaming” after going through a section of my blog titled “Thought provoking””. So here is my first international blog as a guest on another blog….


The Oxford dictionary defines body shaming as the action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size. It is a defamatory act, a bullying act and it has become prominent in recent times. Body shaming is the leading cause of depression especially amongst women who are prone to body changes in relation to age and birth, as well as other extenuating factors.

During my recent trip to Scotland where I visited Aberdeen and met up with an Ex, some comments made by him triggered some memories from when we were together. Those memories were not pleasant ones I must tell you.

I needed a tour guide to see the city since it was my first time there and since he was living there, I called him up to check if he would do the honour of showing me the city. He agreed and I took a night coach from Glasgow to Aberdeen. I arrived and he picked me up, took me to my hotel and came round the next day for the first day of sightseeing.

He needed to pick up some paints from a hardware shop and when I got down from the car, he made a scathing remark that goes thus “the gift I would get you would be a gym membership!”. Like I said before, this triggered some unpleasant memories from when I dated him.

Now the fact is I have added some weight from when he last saw me which was years ago. Whilst I may have been battling weight gain, I am not obese. I am also not “fat” by any standards.

He was and is the kind of person that would attack for gaining just a pound and it was a constant battle between us. The funny thing is that I was practically skinny when I was with him but he still managed to body shame me.

The second comment was when he tried to play smart with “time” and I ended up missing my coach drive back to Glasgow and him getting a ticket. He took out the frustration of paying an 80 pounds ticket on me by sending a text that when I lose weight, I would be able to walk faster!

These are some of the ways that spouses, partners, friends, families and loved ones are constantly body shaming you and me.

The world has been “brainwashed” by the media about how and what beauty should look like. No. I. DO.NOT.HAVE.ANYTHING.AGAINST.SKINNY.WOMEN! We are constantly bombarded by these super cool pictures of the “ideal body” on all social media platforms that it is now a norm. No one should be made to feel they are “less than human” simply because they have booties and thick thighs! As long as they are healthy, then all should be okay. This is however not the reality on ground.

Body shaming comes in different forms. Being criticized by someone directly to your face, criticized behind your back and the most pathetic body shaming act, are you criticizing yourself.

Body shaming can have a lot of negative effects on persons. It can lead to low self-esteem, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders and profound health issues amongst others.

If body shaming can lead to all sorts of negative effects, why then do people do it?

There are a number of reasons people do it and they include the following:


Graphic with the words body shaming 5 reasons why people do it


Body ”shamers” are most likely bullies who derive pleasure from belittling and victimizing people. Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. A bully who body shames you, may not even necessarily be someone “skinny”. It could be someone more or less with same body shape as you but just derives pleasure in making you feel sorry for yourself. These sorts of body shame bullying will only have effect if you are the type that feels you are “fat”. In other words, you are affected by the body shaming act simply because you believe that your body is “not up to par”


People body shame because they want to take out their frustration on anyone and you just happened to be the next available person! My Ex dissing me was simply an act of frustration. I was available and I became his victim.


 Another reason people actually body shame others is because they too feel inferior about their own body! Now think about it. Why would someone who is same body shape and size as yours, body shame you? It is simply because they have a low self-esteem. These sorts of people will generally and naturally be bullies.


Do you know there are people who are always mean in any and everything? Well, this is another reason why people body shame. They just want to be mean to you. Make you feel bad about your body.


A babe who feels her body is the “ideal” body will always have the “I am superior feeling” amongst babes who have different body shapes than hers. Someone with this mentality can easily body shame others without blinking an eye.


Now, as a lady or guy, what is actually important is the status of your health. As long as you are healthy and do not have any health conditions arising from your weight, then you should be proud of your body. Do not let anyone put you down because you have a body they consider “less than stellar”

If on the other hand, you have health issues arising from your weight, then you should consider eating healthy and reducing your weight to an ideal range as advised by your own physician.

You may be body shaming consciously or unconsciously! I think I may have body shamed one or two persons by my comments!

We all should desist from such acts. Let’s make our environment (offices, homes, streets, and communities) “Nobody shaming zones”. There is too much trouble in the world already and we should not add body shaming to it. Spread the word!

I am an African, with booty (yes!) and boobs. Healthy. I am beautiful the way I am and I love my body. You should love your body too! Because you are beautiful just the way you are!

Love yourself fiercely! Use these beautiful Daily Affirmations to boost your confidence and self esteem every day. Do not let body shamers make you lose your self worth! Follow me on Pinterest for more inspiration on building Self Esteem and Self Confidence.

Use these 7 STRATEGIES to boost your confidence and thank me later.

Conclusion: There are many reasons body shaming occur and these are a few reasons of body shaming but whatever reason body shaming occurs, do not let it get to you. Always affirm positively, know who you are and believe in your self-worth. Trust me, those body shaming bullies, will know you are not a pushover. Have you or anyone you know experienced, body shaming? How did you (they) overcome it? Let us know in comments below. 

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Jennifer Pompaski
Jennifer Pompaski

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  1. March 31, 2020 / 1:32 pm

    I love this article – everything is spot on. First, I will say that I am glad you got rid of that ex. Many women continue to accept abuse like that because they feel they can’t do better – and such comments like what your ex said will only fuel that belief. It is classic with abusive partners, it is their way of controlling another person because THEY are the ones who are insecure! I have been on both ends of the spectrum; as a young adult I was very skinny. I got comments like “she’s anorexic”, “she must be sick”, and the like. I even had a woman come up to me in a restaurant bathroom and tell me to my face that I was too skinny! She sneered when she said it, too. I hated being skinny and shapeless and I felt awful about myself, like something was wrong with me. Several years later I was on a medication that had the side effect of making me gain weight, and I went up to nearly 200 pounds. My boyfriend at the time told me “Wow, when you bend over your butt is sooooooo wide, you need a wide load sign put on it.” Then he proceeds to make the sound of a truck backing up…. beeeeep beeeeep beeeep…. He is now an ex, too! I am now back to a normal weight, but in truth, I am happiest when I connect with others who don’t look at the body, but at the soul. Most of my closest friends are overweight, and they have been wonderful because nobody is comparing. True happiness comes from within – and we are all beautiful regardless of shape, color, or size.

    • April 3, 2020 / 7:57 pm

      Christy, I had to take the time to respond to your comment because I was busy at work when I read it! I am so sorry about those horrible things your ex said to you! It was cruel of him and I am greatly happy about how you took that comment and turned it around on him and made yourself better! Thank God he is an ex now and will remain so forever. Amen. Lol. I don’t tolerate people who make ‘body shape’ about someone. Body image is not everything. I don’t want to make this a ‘man problem’ but men are fond of doing this. Belittling their partners, body shaming them. We, as women also body shame each other a lot and it is so not right! A friend of mine who dated her then-boyfriend for years was dumped because the guy said ‘she has added weight and would add more when they get married and starts having kids’. It was a very trying period. She would cry for hours and days. The guy married a very ‘skinny’ girl’. Do you know what happened? Said skinny wife started adding weight rapidly without having kids and holy of holies, my friend started shedding weight. She is married now with two kids and looking superb. She married a great man. Meanwhile, her ex is on the brink of divorce because what he married was ‘body image’ and not the woman. You are absolutely right, happiness comes from within and we are all beautiful regardless of shape, color or size. That is why I have a blog post that says ‘BODY IMAGE IS NOT EVERYTHING’. Thank you for joining the conversation and for sharing your inspiring story with us!

  2. February 8, 2020 / 8:02 pm

    Great information, thanks for sharing

  3. January 28, 2020 / 4:50 am

    Great post!!
    I have been a victim of a lot of body shaming jokes, so I know it hurts. To stop others from hurting me, I started making comments about myself, so others wouldn’t. But this also doesn’t help anyone. Least of all, myself!

    I will think twice about letting others body shame me and stop doing it to myself!!

  4. March 19, 2019 / 8:45 pm

    You have nailed the list. Body shaming is rude. While we cannot those who shame us, we can ignore and move on. Treat them like “barking dogs”. Great post as usual!

    • March 20, 2019 / 6:59 am

      Hahahhaha, I like the idea about treating bodyshamers as barking dogs. Thanks Anu. I appreciate your comments.

  5. March 19, 2019 / 8:38 am

    I’m so glad he is an ex, I cannot believe he said those things to you!

    Great post x

  6. March 16, 2019 / 3:36 am

    You are gorgeous. Honestly, body shaming is so normal and i blame social media!

    • March 16, 2019 / 6:00 am

      Thank you! Social media has played a huge role in body shaming.

  7. March 15, 2019 / 10:53 pm

    Lowkey people who body shame other people are simply inssecure with themselves. I mean anyone who feels they have to actively put another person down about their body is reaching for some kind of fulfillment in their own life. Love this post.

    • March 16, 2019 / 6:01 am

      No truer words have been said! Thanks for joining the conversations Brie! Enjoy your weekend

  8. March 6, 2019 / 1:55 pm

    I will honestly never understand body shaming, even if you listed out why people do it. I don’t understand why people feel the need to be mean to others. I live in my own little bubble and I let people live their lives. I don’t feel the need to tell anyone how they should live or look. Now if people come to me for advice, I will certainly give it to them but I certainly never dole out any unsolicited advice because F that shit. Bullying is so foreign to me. SO foreign. We have absolutely no idea what might be going on in someone else’s world so why be negative. I feel that people who bully are so insanely insecure with themselves, it’s sad. But hey, I just said that I don’t judge, lol, so who really knows, right?! What I do know is I am going to go off on my merry way and dance to the beat of my own drummer and not give a F. 😉

    • March 6, 2019 / 2:13 pm

      Gigi! This is the 2nd time I’d be screaming your name! Lol. I just like the way you write and put things in perspective! I really don’t know why people body shame others and yes I do believe bullies themselves are insecure people. Like you, I dance to the beat of my drummer and not give a F about what anybody thinks! Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the conversation!

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  10. October 13, 2018 / 3:47 pm

    YES! Body shaming is so real and it’s just sad. Thank you so much for sharing this.

    • October 14, 2018 / 7:48 pm

      Thanks for reading and joining the conversation! Have a great week!

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  19. June 21, 2018 / 9:46 pm

    This is a really great post – it is a shame people can be so mean to others. I wish people cared more about others and the damage that their actions can cause.

    Kirstie xoxo


    • June 21, 2018 / 9:53 pm

      Thanks Kirstie. It would be a better world if we cared more about others!

  20. April 17, 2018 / 8:01 am

    Comments like the ones you received say more about the person giving them than the person receiving them. Obviously he felt insecure when he saw you again after all this time and felt the need to hurt you in order to make himself feel better. Body shaming is such a complex topic and I feel you expressed it really well, I have both body shamed and been body shamed in the past. I body shamed another person in defence of a friend who it was happening to, not something I’m proud of but I felt it was necessary because it’s never right to make fun of others and I can be a little hot headed and passionate at times. I think you look amazing and you should own it, who cares what negative and insecure people think!

    • April 17, 2018 / 8:08 am

      Your post on body mass insecurities reminded me a lot about this very post on body shaming. Generally body shamers are big bullies and like all bullies, their bullying acts stem from their own insecurities and your ability to recognise it for what it is makes you live above and beat bullies to their own game! Thanks for your lovely comments! I’ve always loved my body and will continue to love it regardless of anyone’s opinions and thoughts!

  21. March 30, 2018 / 7:42 am

    Such a good post! A very real issue in society nowadays. The world would be so much kinder if we didnt bodyshame! Healthy & happy is how it should be ☺️

    • March 30, 2018 / 8:01 am

      Thanks. It would indeed be a happier world if we didn’t bodyshame

  22. March 1, 2018 / 6:21 pm

    This post is the TRUTH & I love your blog page by the way!! I’ll be making my way through your page and reading more of your posts!! Super interesting. Oh & I am sooo over body shaming. It’s so lame!!! You have a banging body by the way!! Keep giving folks something to hate on! 🙂

    • March 1, 2018 / 6:24 pm

      Awww Jessica! Thank you for your lovely comments! I will keep giving folks something to hate on lol! I am going over to your blog right away!

  23. R.Quirls
    February 27, 2018 / 2:46 am

    Before some people even ask how I am doing they are judging how I look. I don’t need a reminder of being overweight as I can see that myself. Then after they have made me feel insecure they tell me how pretty I am. My point is you would not have to inflate my spirits if you did not initially deflate them. This was a good read.

    • February 27, 2018 / 3:33 am

      Like what’s the whole point? I get you! Thanks for your thoughts and comments! Have a great week

  24. February 20, 2018 / 8:49 pm

    Body shaming is bad, society needs to frown at it. Am happy you’ve discovered yourself and let no one put you down.

    • February 20, 2018 / 7:56 pm

      Thanks Julia. I am at a place in my life where i don’t ever let people put me down.

  25. February 20, 2018 / 2:49 pm

    Jennifer, this is so relatable! It’s a sad world we live in and it’s getting even worse for our young ones. I love how you ended this on a very positive note. Keep spreading the love, hopefully more and more of us will come to love us for who we are x

    • February 20, 2018 / 2:56 pm

      Thanks Kam! We really do need to love ourselves by ourselves. Not be defined by other’s perceptions. I do hope we will all love us for who we are. Enjoy your week!

  26. February 19, 2018 / 12:24 pm

    There are very few people who can tell their side of story. They are the people who are what they actually are and not faked self.

        • February 19, 2018 / 1:25 pm

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      • February 19, 2018 / 1:16 pm

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      • February 19, 2018 / 1:17 pm

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  27. February 18, 2018 / 7:31 am

    Not everything is bad. i love woman as creation from god. the bad is from the man himself.

  28. Annreeba
    February 14, 2018 / 8:07 am

    Thanks for sharing your personal story in this post. Body shaming is so not okay.

    • February 14, 2018 / 7:30 am

      Thanks Annreeba for being part of the conversation

  29. Pankaj
    February 13, 2018 / 5:39 pm

    Very good information

  30. February 9, 2018 / 9:06 am

    Body shaming is so not ok, I can’t believe people think it’s still acceptable to do it! Great post babes!

  31. Naz
    February 8, 2018 / 5:47 pm

    Great read.

  32. February 7, 2018 / 10:19 am

    so true, its like tall guys always making fun of short guys and girls makes it worse by always saying “I love my girl to be tall, not one short thing” not cool so not cool

  33. Hnnah denton
    February 5, 2018 / 7:52 pm

    Body shaming is NEVER OKAY! You look smoking! Keep doing what you’re doing girl xx

    • February 5, 2018 / 8:30 pm

      I agree. Body shaming is a no no and thanks for the nice compliments!

  34. January 28, 2018 / 8:03 am

    Ugh I hate body shaming, I mean there’s literally no good use for it. I’d be thrilled for it to just go away all together!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

      January 28, 2018 / 6:16 pm

      I am sure a whole lot of us hate it and yes, we have to make it go away

  35. Stacey Jones
    January 24, 2018 / 7:20 pm

    people dont realise how much damage someone can do by body shaming! we are who we are and are all beautful in our own way!

      January 25, 2018 / 8:16 am

      Yes. We are all beautiful in our own way! Thank you!

  36. lifewithceleste
    January 24, 2018 / 5:57 pm

    Thanks for sharing your personal story in this post. What I try to do is just ignore and separate myself from those type of people.

      January 25, 2018 / 8:18 am

      Exactly, I am gonna separate myself from those kinda people! Thanks for your thoughts on this!

  37. January 24, 2018 / 5:25 pm

    Ugh!! I’m so over body shaming!! The next person to even give you a sideways look I’d just go ahead and close the door in their face, smh. Rude people are EVERYWHERE

      January 25, 2018 / 8:19 am

      Lol. Now that is a very good suggestion!

  38. amprinzess
    January 24, 2018 / 4:16 pm

    I’m glad you wrote about this topic because it is so important!!!! I dated a guy that used to poke at my belly and stuff! He would say he was joking, but that stuff sticks! i hated it! Screw that guy, and i’m glad that came out of that recent encounter with this post instead of letting him win! good for you!

      January 25, 2018 / 8:24 am

      It is indeed important. I have seen someone who constantly had suicide thoughts on account of body shaming. She is in a better place now. I don’t let people like my Ex win. Never.

  39. hellozoelea
    January 24, 2018 / 10:51 am

    Thank you for sharing such an honest account – and that man…..! Please don’t go near him again!

      January 25, 2018 / 8:19 am

      No i will not!

  40. Deepika Jaga
    January 23, 2018 / 4:50 pm

    Body shaming is not less than a crime.People who don’t feel confident in themselves tries to lose others confidence as well.

  41. Derek
    January 16, 2018 / 5:19 pm

    Unfortunately the world is full of this type of conduct..people belittling others in different forms. They are the sad ones that don’t know the difference.

    I’m sure he will stay your ex !

  42. January 16, 2018 / 5:16 pm

    1. You are so ridiculously beautiful and your figure is slammin! 2.) wow, what an asshole. That is fucking unacceptable.

    • January 16, 2018 / 5:30 pm

      That’s why i love you! You say it as it is! Thank you! And yes, he is an asshole lol

  43. Chicity
    January 16, 2018 / 4:49 pm

    Hmmmm! “Body Shaming” this is Da Bomb Sis! Body shaming only flourishes because we accept it. To support what the piece says, as soon as I am healthy and attractive in my own unique way… What one thinks or says matters not… Thumbs up for u Pompaski

  44. paula Brown
    January 16, 2018 / 2:10 pm

    This is so real! Gosh! I felt this to my loins! Social media has become a federal government that set norms for citizens to follow. Good one sis.

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