Dear Queens, let’s talk about procrastination today. I know you would want to ask, “what is procrastination” and how to overcome procrastination?
How To Overcome Procrastination
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What Is Procrastination?
Procrastination is the avoidance of doing a task that needs to be accomplished by a certain deadline. It could be further stated as a habitual or intentional delay of starting or finishing a task despite knowing it might have negative consequences.
Often times we always want to put carrying out very important tasks away for some time. We pay attention to less important tasks and then at the last minute, we start scrambling to get the task done usually with mistakes and errors and getting really stressed out, complicating issues for ourselves (at work and home) and undermining ourselves.
If you have ever felt like you have procrastinated one too many a times, you are not left out. Study shows that over 95% of us are prone to procrastination (yes, myself included). While this may mean you are not alone, it should be sobering enough to know that it is usually a recipe for disaster viz a viz, fraught relationships at work with bosses, family members and friends.
Yes, procrastination have far reaching consequences. Perhaps, my personal story on procrastination will help you understand how procrastinating can impact your personal and career life negatively if it becomes a habit
My Procrastination Story
By the way, I tell my personal stories on The Chronicles Of Jennifer.
So, this procrastinating issue and how to overcome procrastination reminds me of a time I procrastinated so much that I ended up breaking up an otherwise beautiful friendship. I used to have this close friend while I was in high school.
You know that period you are home, writing Jamb (university entrance exams), awaiting results from NECO and WAEC and GCE and all the naughty things you get up to (I was a good girl though I promise!)!
Well, my friend and I were in that state of “limbo” when her elder sister got married. We were chosen as bridesmaids (yeah! I still can feel my excitement even now!). You see, it was the first time I ever had the honor of being someone’s bridesmaid! It was so awesome, I started planning. Now, there was a downside though.
The Wedding Gig
Being chosen as a bridesmaid does not automatically mean you have to get the dress for free. You have to pay! I was a young school girl, things were bad at home so I couldn’t just go ask my parents for the money to make the dress. My friend knew the situation then and her family agreed to make the dress for me so I could pay later.
In retrospect (hindsight is a bi***), I should probably have opted out knowing full well that I would not be able to pay! But no one and nothing was going to deter me from being a princess in a bridesmaid’s dress!
The day of the wedding came, we dressed up, danced, had fun and went home. The dress was taken off and ironically, never to be worn again.
Oh well, it did serve a purpose, right? The payment became an issue. Things got worse at the home front, I wasn’t working and of course, there was no way I could pay.
As a matter of fact, this lingered on for years until it became this huge gaping hole between me and my friend and spoilt a childhood friendship that should have blossomed into adulthood. Things became deteriorated between our families to the extent we stopped talking to each other.
The Effects Of Procrastination
A few years down the line, my friend lost one of the only two brothers she has. Out of shame, I never went to say sorry (even though deep inside me, I was mourning her loss). I would tell mutual friends to go visit and console her but I never went. Procrastination is a pain! I tell you.
The result? I lost my friend! I lost a childhood friend to procrastination.
Moral of the story? Stop procrastinating.
It is a pain that will inflict much more pain! Just imagine procrastinating on a job assignment only to do it at the last moment with errors that could have been detected if you had done it earlier. Instead, you got humiliated at the annual general meeting at your workplace for “your not too stellar performance”.
When it is time to do something, do it. Apologize (in my own case) if you need to apologize for your mistakes (even when you don’t need to). That “to do” list on the sticky notes on your laptop at the office, start crossing them off.
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Imagine, a festering wound getting bigger and bigger, every day because you refused to take care of it.
Then it gets so big that even when it heals, it leaves this huge scar behind which should, in essence, shouldn’t have left any scar at all if you had done all you were supposed to have done when the wound was this tiny.
A few years ago, I and Mary have connected again (we lost contact for several years) through one of her sisters. We talked on the phone a couple of times but have never seen face to face since the incident from our high school days.
At times I wonder what would have happened if our friendship would have blossomed through the years?
Causes of Procrastination
There are several reasons we have procrastinated in the past. Take for instance my story. The biggest reason I let the wound fester so to say was fear and then shame.
I recently discovered Motivation Grid and these are the four causes of procrastination up on their website and I do agree with them!
- Fear Of Failure
If you are the type that fears failure, you will tend to procrastinate a lot. This would mean holding off on initiating or starting something. You, however, need to recognize and accept that failure is a part of life.
- The Perfectionist Angle
A lot of us pride ourselves on being a perfectionist. I used to feel I am one but had to change my mentality.
Perfectionism is the grandfather of procrastination!
You know why? It is because you want everything to be perfect.
When you want to do something that is outside your comfort zone or very different from what you are used to doing because you won’t want to start until you are sure the end result would be perfect.
Then procrastination sets in. Just start already! You can fix ”loose ends” as you go.
- Low Energy Levels
Low energy levels would mean you become lazy about carrying out a task and then you procrastinate. This may be due to an unhealthy lifestyle.
Adopt a healthy lifestyle, exercise, eat healthier meals. Increase your energy levels and you will have the motivation to do what you need to do.
All other things being equal…
- Lack of Focus
I noticed that I tend to lose focus when I don’t plan my day and week well. I just jump all over the place. Start something and then not finish it. A lack of focus will lead to procrastination. Develop a routine that improves your focus and then commit to it. Commitment is key.
Now, let’s see how to overcome procrastination and avoid ruining your careers and relationships.
How To Overcome Procrastination
Let’s all do what we have to do at every stage in our lives to save us the pain of procrastination. Here are five tips for overcoming procrastination on a daily basis.
1. How To Overcome Procrastination: Look At The Big Picture
Most times we focus on the immediate (short term) instead of looking at the long term gains of carrying out a specific task or doing something at a particular time.
For instance, we want to focus on the boring or unbearable (short term) aspects that may be associated with completing/carrying out/doing something as opposed to the gains (long term) for example, the feeling of contentment and achievement, praise, etc from getting the “task” done.
Imagine the feeling of relief you get after making that call you have been dreading to make all week long and the feeling of achievement after completing an important assignment at the office on time and doing it perfectly and the praise you got from boss man!
2.How To Overcome Procrastination: Break Task Into Smaller Sizes
If a task is daunting just because of the sheer size of it, break the task into smaller sizes and get to it. Let’s see, you need to prep meals for the new diet (or a resolution to eat healthier) and it just seems so enormous.
All those meals to prepare! You could break it into preparing all the breakfasts in one day, lunch packs in another day and so on. Instead of prepping all the meals in one day. You are well on your way to a healthier you!
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3. How To Overcome Procrastination: Be Realistic
Setting goals and targets are all good but when you do set them, be realistic. Often times, we want to “overachieve” and we end up setting goals and targets that result in stress.
To avoid this, know and understand your limits and capabilities and work around them in getting a specific task done or doing something.
For instance, I function optimally at nights and in the early mornings so I tend to “get things” done better during those periods. For some reason, once it is 12 noon (even when I was in university), it always seems as if my whole body system is rebooting!
As soon as I discovered this, I started working around that time so it does not affect me in any way. Personally or professionally!
Whatever you do, do not Stress yourself.
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4. How To Overcome Procrastination: Get A Partner!
The purpose of having a partner is to act as a checkmate. Someone who would hold you accountable for something you need to do. It could be a colleague at the office, friend, partner, sister, brother, etc.
Not someone that will “help” you get away with not completing a task! Someone firm enough to push you to do what you need to do.
5. How To Overcome Procrastination: Reward Yourself!
Go ahead, darling! Reward yourself. Fleek your hair and tell yourself, “I am a badass”! Yes! After getting a task done, you could reward yourself by eating a large chunk of cake (Hahahaha. You will go do some jogging to burn off the calories!), get yourself something you have been wanting to get yourself.
The idea of “rewarding yourself” of course means that this would be in the plan right before carrying out the task, doing whatever it is you want to do so that you can get motivated to do it. So plan something nice to reward yourself.
It could be, being on social media for long periods of time (you have denied yourself while carrying out the task). So go on and reward yourself after achieving that goal and beating procrastination!
Now you know why they say, a stitch in time, saves nine!
Conclusion on How To Overcome Procrastination
Procrastination is the habit of delaying important tasks, usually by focusing on less urgent, more enjoyable, and easier activities instead. Procrastinating is quite different from laziness, which is usually the unwillingness to do a thing. Procrastination can restrict your potential and undermine your career. It can also disrupt teamwork, reduce morale, and even lead to depression and job loss.
So, it is crucial to take proactive steps to prevent it. The first step to overcoming procrastination is to recognize that you’re doing it. Then, identify the reasons behind your behavior and use appropriate strategies to manage and overcome it.
So, there you have it, how to overcome procrastination. How do you all avoid procrastination? Please share all those lovely ideas, Queens.
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These are some really great tips!
I’m a habitual procrastinator, can’t seem to break that habit.
I needed to read this again!
Ana, I think we all are to some extent lol! You are most welcome!
So sad to hear about that, friends are so precious. I’m lucky I haven’t experienced that even if I always procrastinate when it comes to my school projects.
Thanks Nina. Procrastination is a slow killer lol. Thanks for stopping by!
I’ve learned so much from your blog.. Even if I haven’t done it myself, it’s good that I already know the consequences..
Great! Glad to know you found my blog helpful Owen! Thanks for stopping by and do have a beautiful weekend!
Not to carry my own chair, but I had never done procrastinating in my whole life. I always do taks as soon as I can. Procrastinating would make me sleepless nights.
Wow! Then you are a superwoman! I could learn a thing or two from you!
Sorry to hear about your relationship with a childhood friend. I bet it hurts deeply. I had so many issues with one of my college friends. Things got bitter and we stopped talking with each other. I wish I’d had taken the first step to get things settled but I lost her forever as she passed away. I never got a chance again to say that I love her, forgive her and everything is great between us!
Oh no! Oh no! Oh no! I am so so sorry about your loss. I am sure she knew in her heart before she passed away that you love her and you still feel sorry too! Try and remember only the good before the quarrel (I’m sure that’s what she’d want). I hope you find healing Ana. All the best and bear hugs for you!
This is such a helpful post for overcoming procrastination. I tend to procrastinate alot so this was super useful!
Glad I could help Bree! Have a beautiful weekend!
love this topic! every single one of them is such an important guide, I admit I procrastinate every day and I am guilty about it. Thanks so much for sharing
You are welcome!
This is a great way to kickstart summer break with the kids. Rewarding yourself and being realistic will help me get through the upcoming months.
Badly need that. I tend to clean everything when I need to write something and sometimes it just delays things that I really need to attend. q
You have to find a way around it, Kathy! All the best!
This is so me and so everything that I need to do. I’ve had such a lack of energy lately! I need to step it up!
LOL, I totally relate Alyssa! You do need to step UP though. LOL!
awesome guide! and so very useful we do all suffer from this from time to time and it is important to stay on track no matter what
Thanks, Lyosha! Yes, it is absolutely important to stay on track no matter what!
I need to read this post over and over again, I even need to save! These are amazing tips. Thank you so so much.
You are most welcome Chad! Thanks for joining the conversation!
I am big on procrastinating. It stems I think from fear of failure. This is a great guide to help!
Awwww, I hope you get to overcome your fear of failure. I find that it is easier to just start and learn from mistakes, that way, we build self confidence and beat fear. One day at a time Wren. All the best!
This definitely seems like an ultimate guide! I can be a huge procrastinator sometimes.
I needed to read this! I procrastinate so much for my school work. Thanks for giving so much info on this!
You are most welcome Bethany!
I cant lie, i am the queen of procrastination but i have worked a lot on that as of lately
LOL at queen of procrastination. Glad to know you are doing something about it! Thanks for stopping by!
so good! i like how you write, keep it up 🙂
Awwwww, thank you Kathleen!
I am horrible at procrastinating. It ends up causing so much more stress than if I would have just done the thing in the first place. Hopefully, with your tips, I’ll be able to stop putting things off.
Way to go Tammie. I am happy you find that some of these tips will help you beat procrastination!
I think you’ve hit the head on the nail of this topic. Procrastination can be hard to overcome, and sometimes, you don’t do anything, because you’re not sure what to do. I have a list of priority tasks that I check off, and it keeps me focused on goal setting and fulfilment. Great post!
“I noticed that I tend to lose focus when I don’t plan my day and week well. I just jump all over the place. Start something and then not finish it.” Yup! This is me most times lol, find myself being more busy than productive because of it. A habit I’m in the process of breaking out of thankfully.
Jhunelle, It happens to me too so I had to ”master” planning ahead. I often write out what I need to do the next, week or month but at times I may forget but always get back on track! Don’t worry, you’ll do fine. You just need to develop the habit. It’s not easy but it is doable!
Great nuggets. I love point 5 the more. Never knew I could plan rewarding myself maybe I will give it a trial; though I have a similar pattern I have always adopted especially when what I set to do is domestically related. I can tell my father, relative, hubby etc thus : “I wanna do this today, what will you give me when I finish it successfully ?” Most times the answer will be ” what do you desire?” I will like ” take me out, buy me this or that”. Knowing that someone is going to bless me with a token after meeting target motivates me and helps me to conquer procrastination.
Beautiful piece. Keep educating the world darling…
Thank you and thanks for the warm comments!
Excellent post. Your blog is so helpful to us in so many ways from mental health to being productive.
Thank you so much for doing what you do and sharing your writing with us 🙂
Awwww, thank you so much! I also love your blog too Nyxie!
Very nice info
Oh this is just educating…procrastination is truly a killer. Thank you Jenny for laying it out bare….and I love your writing style.
Thanks Maggie. Your comments are so encouraging!
I am definitely guilty of procrastinating! It makes life so much harder WHY DO WE DO IT! lol
Way to go!
I promise myself today that am never gonna procrastinate anymore. Thanks sis for the eye opener
Such lovely writing here, and I completely understand the struggle of procrastination! These are great tips to follow by and I will use this so thank you for sharing!
Thanks Kat. Your comments are encouraging! Looking forward to sharing more so we can all grow!
Amazing my friend… I love how you place all the thoughts in here!
Thanks Jon! Your blog is more than amazing and i learn so much from it. Keep up the good work my friend!