10 Things Mentally Strong People Do Not Do

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Mentally Strong People

Mentally strong people do well in handling their habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behavior in ways that set them up for success in life.

A conversation I had recently with a friend about mentally strong people prompted this blog post. I believe habits can be changed by working on them! The activities we engage in, form the habits that influence things around us.

I have had lots of moments where throwing in the towel seems to be the only option but the fear of failure is one thing I do not want to give a chance in my life! No way.

The only option then is to develop a thick skin. Be more mentally strong. Build HABITS that will help you achieve that.

It is a journey. Not a day’s “job”.

Ten Things Mentally Strong People Do Not Do

I bet you didn’t know you possess all these amazing attributes of a mentally strong person! If you are one, then you definitely possess some of these attributes according to experts.

Mentally Strong People Don’t Run Away from Change

Darling the only thing constant in life is, change! 

Much of our ability to experience inner peace and happiness rests without the willingness to accept change. Life is not static, it is dynamic. It is often difficult to leave behind the familiar past and venture into untraveled territories, so we cling to ideas, habits, and people we should let go.

Many people do not want anything that will alter their norms of comfort, they could go on and on like that for life. They do not want to imagine what is on the other side of the fence, or out there in the woods.

Different is the case of mentally strong people; they don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change.

They recognize that change is unavoidable and have faith in their capabilities to adapt.


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Mentally Strong People Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

Life itself is a risk. That is the reality.

Most people leave the decision making in the hands of wishes; “I wish it would not rain today so I can do this and that, and if not, I’d just wait.”

Different is the mentally strong person; I am prepared for anything today!

Mentally strong people don’t take reckless or foolish risks but don’t mind taking calculated risks. They spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

Mentally Strong People Don’t Dwell On The Past

My previous relationship “haunted” me for long! I have only begun to recover genuinely from the whole experience. I had a hard talk with myself. What is all the bottling up doing to me? The bitterness? The feelings of failure and all that baggage I have been carrying about.

Absolutely nothing I tell you! Rather, I was getting more bitter and transposing on unrelated persons. I had to get my shit together. Either that or have a mental breakdown. It was that bad.

It is human. You are human. Not perfect. Grieve, cry, take out your frustration on your punching bag but don’t hold on to the past. It belongs to the past. Leave it there!

“I failed the last one, so I am not taking the exams again!” Oh, some people might be sympathetic to such talk, but definitely not a mentally strong person. They don’t waste time lodging on the past and wishing things were different; “Oh I wish I was born in a rich family, how I wish I had a smaller nose.” Oh well, I do wish I was born with smaller ears lol. Never mind.

They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve cultured from it. They look to the future, with a definite plan to conquer it. “However it had been, I’d still make it fine.”

That is their mentality. The past is gone. I am facing the future, Squarely.

Mentally Strong People Don’t Make The Same Mistakes Over and Over

    If I had a dime for every mistake I repeated, I would be very rich. I am learning though.

    Even robots make mistakes! We all know that. Right.

    It is when making these mistakes become a habit, that we can identify a major problem. Mentally strong people make mistakes, but they don’t stop there, they make sure they never make such mistakes again.

    Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future. They accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes.

    Mentally Strong People Don’t Fear Quiet Moments

      I like my own company. I always had. It was a problem for my parents when I was growing up. They didn’t understand why I would prefer staying in my room reading and writing.

      I do socialize. Meaningful ones. Thank you. I am more productive during those quiet moments.

      Mentally strong people recognize their alone times and quiet moments as opportunities to think or plan something for their lives. Those times are not seen as moments of loneliness.

      They don’t crave for the audience at all times.

      Enjoying their own company and not dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use those moments to be productive.

      Mentally Strong People Don’t Expect Immediate Results

        Mentally strong people learn to wait for time. They understand that not everything happens immediately. That will not deter them from investing in things that may take forever to yield results.

        Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real revolution takes time.

        You Don’t Feel The World Owes You Anything

          Mentally strong people look for opportunities based on their own merits. They feel they should work for whatever they get, and when anything comes free, it is another opportunity for expansion.

          They don’t have grandiose ideas that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something for them to make it.

          If they get help from others, fine but they make their way.

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          Mentally Strong People

          Mentally Strong People Don’t Feel bitter About Other People’s Success

            Mentally strong people don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. They see it as an opportunity to set a new benchmark. They recognize that success does not just come around, so they work harder to get a go at more success.

            Being mentally strong means you appreciate and celebrate other peoples’  success stories and that you would even want to learn a thing or two from them.

            That is how they roll. Learn some.

            Mentally Strong People Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

            Not everyone sees things the way you see them, but you must ensure that you take constructive criticism. Some people would say “They only like people with suits and long short hair, so I must get those.” You’d find out that some other people do not like it like that.

            Mentally strong people only do the things that matter to their goals, not to please everyone all the time. They may strive to be kind and fair, but can definitely handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

            You Don’t Waste Energy On Things You Can’t Control

            Some people spend all their time lamenting about some events they can in no way handle; If only I was taller If the president was my relative.

            You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They quickly recognize that it is their attitude towards events that matters.

            Mentally strong people are not born like that, they are made by deliberate decisions and actions. Dare to be one!

            Conclusion On Mentally Strong People

            I recently carried out what is known as KAIZEN training in the organization I work with. The training was for everyone, from the shop floor personnel to senior managers.

            A slide from the training reads


            As the trainer, it was profound for me and it holds a strong meaning.

            I believe this holds true to becoming a mentally strong person. Develop habits, practice them and we are on our way to becoming better persons.

            So there you have it. Ten things mentally strong people do

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            What other attributes of mentally strong people have you come across or have as a person? Hope to hear from you all. Have a fantastic week KQ Tribe!

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            Jennifer Pompaski
            Jennifer Pompaski

            Hi, my name is Jennifer. I am an Engineer by day and a blogger 24/7. I am passionate about Self Improvement & Productivity and this blog is dedicated to that passion! I hope you find it worthwhile each time you visit! If you do find anything helpful on here, kindly share because sharing is caring!

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            1. February 17, 2020 / 3:40 pm

              I love this. It makes me feel like I can conquer the world.

              • February 17, 2020 / 3:47 pm

                Thank you Linda! We all can conquer the world in our own little ways!

            2. February 7, 2020 / 2:37 am

              Oh these are so good! I’m working on a few of these still but I have mastered not making the same mistakes over and over! I’ve done that one too many times!
              Can always grow mentally stronger! I’ll never stop:) another great post!!

            3. June 24, 2019 / 4:52 am

              Thank’s For Sharing This Dear! Your blog and articles are really helpful and have the power of motivation!

              • June 24, 2019 / 4:55 am

                Awwwwww, thanks for your warm comments. I try to do my bit. And thank you for taking time to read! Have a beautiful week!

            4. June 15, 2019 / 8:08 pm

              Thanks for sharing this. One of the challenges I face is the expectation to see quick results but I”m working on it. 🙂

              • June 17, 2019 / 6:25 am

                You are welcome, Katherine. Wishing you the very best in your endeavor!

            5. May 10, 2019 / 10:28 pm

              Don’t make same mistake over and over seems like a no brainer but i see people making same mistake over and over!! It’s great advice!!! I think it’s closely related to ownership of one’s actions. If you take ownership of consequences, it’s harder to repeat same mistake but if one finds excuses then chances are they’ll repeat history. Thank you for this great blog post!!

              • May 11, 2019 / 7:21 am

                You are right Sonila. If we take ownership of the consequences of our mistakes, it will be harder to repeat same mistakes over and over again. I love your perception on this! Thank you!

              • April 21, 2019 / 11:11 pm

                Thank you so much Veronica! I love your blog too! Oh yes we do need more positive thinking in this world! If not for positivity, I wouldn’t be where I am today!

            6. Christa
              April 12, 2019 / 6:40 pm

              Great read thanks for sharing. I think I am mentally strong at times.

              • April 12, 2019 / 6:42 pm

                You are welcome Christa. Lol, I think i am mentally strong some times too. The thing is how we can better ourselves every day. Thanks for reading!

            7. Caitlin Golder
              December 26, 2018 / 10:51 am

              Thank you for sharing!!! This is so true!! No point of holding onto people.

            8. October 31, 2018 / 1:50 am

              There are some great reminders in here. So many things that I have been personally working on.

              • November 1, 2018 / 8:44 am

                We all need to work to being better and stronger. Its a journey

            9. Not Taught At School
              October 30, 2018 / 6:51 pm

              Great article, my favorite one was – Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks.
              Lots of these are similar to what you should be doing when starting a business.
              Great read.

            10. October 29, 2018 / 12:47 pm

              I’m sorry but why does it feel like you wrote everything I do? Except the first point though it hurts when people you love and care changes but still you don’t make a mess about it.

              • October 29, 2018 / 12:49 pm

                Then I’d like to be a really close friend to you! I love your blog name!

            11. October 28, 2018 / 5:29 pm

              Thank you for sharing these valuable reminders! I feel like sometimes people take some of these characteristics and make them seem like faults.
              Trish from Habibihouse.net

              • October 28, 2018 / 5:32 pm

                Well, if anyone is taking them as faults then they surely have a problem! Thanks for joining the conversation Trish. Have a beautiful week ahead

            12. October 28, 2018 / 5:18 pm

              Thanks Alex. Will definitely go check your blog out!

            13. October 28, 2018 / 4:20 pm

              Some great tips and there are definitely some things I can improve on.

            14. Kelly Jones
              October 28, 2018 / 4:05 pm

              Wow if this wasn’t a good read. I am actually going to bookmark this and come back to it when I start to feel dragged down and need a lift. There is so much great info in this post.

              • October 28, 2018 / 4:12 pm

                Awwww, thanks Kelly. Appreciate the positivity. Have a beautiful week ahead

            15. October 28, 2018 / 12:35 pm

              Good stuff! I always need the reminders about not hanging out in the past and quit trying to please everyone.

              • October 28, 2018 / 12:41 pm

                I think we all need reminders about trying to please everyone! We simply cannot and shouldn’t because we lose ourselves while doing that!

            16. October 28, 2018 / 11:33 am

              You are welcome! Glad to know you found this worth your while. Have a fab week ahead

            17. Derek
              October 27, 2018 / 7:21 am

              A great piece Jennifer. A good guideline to live your life effectively.

              Thank You

            18. October 26, 2018 / 2:30 pm

              I agree with all of these things! So true. Great words of wisdom!

            19. October 25, 2018 / 12:58 pm

              These are some really great points. I think everyone could benefit from this list. Thank you for putting it together!

            20. October 22, 2018 / 11:22 pm

              thank you for this reminder. Good to read. It is important to live.

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