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Losing Out For Looking Good And Wearing A Nice Outfit

Hello KQ Tribe. Happy new week! I thought i should gist you all about some happenings in my life on Chronicles Of Jennifer! Today i want to share a crazy experience on losing out for looking good and wearing a nice outfit for an interview.

Crazy! Just crazy!

So in August, i went for an interview with a multi national company. Can't reveal details as per names and location and all that. You all know i have a 9 to 5 job.

Interview Day

Yes, i was invited for an interview in one of these multi national companies for a management role (middle).

On the D day, i woke up, had my bath, dressed up and showed up promptly like the boss i am lol. I arrived over an hour before the scheduled time.

I wore what i thought was suitable for an interview, a peach "co-ord" jacket and trouser i got from H&M and  i put a leopard skin scarf i got from Zara round my neck.

Then completed the outfit with kitten block heels shoes equally from Zara. It was a lovely get up or so i thought.

It never occurred to me for one minute that i would be losing out from the interview due to my looks and outfit. Well, that is the report i got this week after a tensed two months waiting to be contacted.

Interview Proper

Due to the fact that we came from different cities as well as having candidates who were domiciled in the city where the interview is being held, the HR Partner decided that those from far should be interviewed first to give them an opportunity to return back to their base on time.

From that decision, i was selected to be the third person to be interviewed. After a brief discussion of how the interview would be conducted, the first candidate was called.

It was my turn in no time. I went in and met a 3 man panel comprising of the HSE Manager (who happens to be a "friend" by the way and was the one who let me in on the whiff of the job opening), the regional director for HSE and the HR Partner.

Both the HSE Manager and HR Partner are blacks and Nigerians while the other guy is white and British.

I wouldn't know if their nationalities had any bearing on their decisions, but i thought it is worth mentioning since the info i got later kind of borders on their opinions about me and my outfit.

Interview took off shaky. I guess a bit of nerves on my side but was in my element in no time and concluded very well if i say so myself.

There was no question i was asked and didn't answer correctly.

After Interview

After the interview, i traveled back to my city, gave my "friend" two days and decided to call. I got a very hostile hello response on phone, promptly apologized and then hung up.

I waited for a over a week and left a message on his WhatsApp. For one, i just wanted to know his thoughts about my performance during the interview. Despite the fact i thought i did well, i also wanted his opinion since he was one of the interviewers.

Well, my calls and messages all went ignored!

I don't know why.

What do i do? I decided to ask a very direct question as yours truly is not one to dilly dally on issues.

The question was "so am i getting the job?" Was it too direct? I am all for hitting the nail on the head however "painful" the "act" may be.

Well, as direct as the question was, i never got an answer to it until about two weeks ago. Yeah, do the maths and let me know how long it took to get an actual response from my "friend" from the time i was interviewed. You are a genius!

Losing Out

So my good "friend" said a lot of gibberish!

Oh wait? Why did he suddenly contact me out of the blue after ignoring me, messages and calls for almost two months? He responded to one of my WhatsApp status where i said

"if giving help is conditional, it is no longer help"

Apparently, it pricked the dude's conscience and he decided to contact me by responding to the WhatsApp status.

Well, i told him a few home truths there and then.

You don't treat people like that. Period!

His excuse? His lines are monitored by the company so he can't say anything about the job.

What the heck?! The same mobile number and WhatsApp he used in telling me about the job and talking extensively about it prior to the interview?

Wait. Same number he was also using to tell me the gibberish he said the day he responded to my WhatsApp status? Well, he did mention that he was currently out of the country and that is why he could talk and/or wanted to speak with me. How plausible is that?

I leave you to help answer that. I wouldn't want anyone thinking i don't want to give the dude any leeway lol.

The Outfit That Led to Losing Out

Like i explained earlier, i wore a peach buttoned down jacket and pant trouser. Tied a scarf on my neck and completed the looks with a peach shoes. Not high heels.

So how did i get to hear about losing out from looking good and wearing a nice outfit?

Hang on for the story!

This is how it all went down after telling my dear friend some hard truths.

Coincidentally, a friend of his whom we all grew up together called me to inquire about something and i decided to narrate the whole saga to him. He said he was meeting him over the weekend and that he is very definite, he will say something about the interview.

And he did!

The feedback? My dear friend (you should know which one i am referring to) told his friend that the white guy (British dude) said from the way i looked (dressing and all that), he didn't think i could do the job!

I know, i know. You are irate on my behalf. It is common to judge people by their looks. He needs a lesson in emotional intelligence if he is going to be a good interviewer.

How does looking good and wearing a nice outfit (suitable for an interview), lead to losing out on securing a job despite your performance during the interview?

It still beats me. So much so, i had to ask a couple of questions on WhatsApp as to how people should dress when attending interviews!

My Look For The Interview

These pictures were taken about three weeks after the interview at my office. I didn't take any pictures the day of the interview but this is the exact look that day. Scarf included.

Interestingly, the make up i wore that day was very mild. I was super conscious of that!

I do know looks are judged.

But judged to the extent that looking good and dressing well results to being labelled as not "being able to do a job"?

 

the peach coord outfit that led to losing out
My Look For The Interview

peach outfit that led to losing out
Was The Peach Too Bright For An Interview?

peach outfit that led to losing out
Maybe I was Too Peachy?

Final Thoughts & Lesson Learnt From Losing Out

  • As it is, i cannot tell how other candidates performed (before and after my own interview) but i know i gave it my best shot just like i do for everything i get involved in.
  • Do i think the outfit was not suitable for an interview. No i do not believe it was unsuitable for an interview.
  • As someone who have also sat on interview panels both in the company i work with and as a guest interviewer for other organisations, i have never laid much emphasis on looks. An ugly (please kindly permit me to be blunt) or beautiful person does not automatically mean they can't do the job.
  • While looks are important, it is ideal to pay more attention to how a candidate handles his/herself during an interview.
  •  Would i wear something similar for another interview? Yes i will.
  • The greatest lesson for me would be learning not to judge a "book by its cover" literally but to pay attention to more important things.
  • I have been judged a lot from my looks like a million times. People see me and tend to think i am an airhead and then when i open my mouth, i see them doing a double take. Someone told me a couple of months ago, "good to know you are not just a pretty face". Sigh

So that is what led to my losing out on a job i was hoping to cinch. I would also like to mention that same dude who 'concluded" i can't do the job from my looks, "made eyes" at me throughout the duration of the interview.

Talk about double standards! Lol.

Oh well, you lose some and you win some.

I would sincerely love to hear from you all. Share your interview tips and experience!

 

Love,

Jennifer

 

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26 thoughts on “Losing Out For Looking Good And Wearing A Nice Outfit

  1. I really don’t know what to say i am speechless! I am so sorry you went through this! I love how you turned this stupid and bad experience into a learning opportunity! You didn’t lose at all, you won a lot! Thank you for sharing your experience.

    Chad
    http://www.mosaicslab.com

  2. What a great and wonderful post. This kind of stuff is what we need to learn and always be prepare for whatever gonna happen. Thank you for sharing your experience to us.

  3. I suspect your failure to secure the job had nothing to do with your competence or outfit, and perhaps you were too sharp for the esteemed interview panel and they felt threatened by a snazzy confident woman.

    If someone came to an interview in a corporate environment dressed like that I would think, on first impressions alone, that even if they are an airhead they made an effort to look professional.

    If your friend had an issue after giving you the low down on the job opportunity, he should have recused himself from the interview and just told you afterward that no decision had been made and that someone would contact the successful applicant. Sucky friends are dime a dozen unfortunately.

  4. I am sorry to hear that you need to experience this things. Just believe that everything will be okay, you are beautiful and look good in that outfit. Go girl!

  5. What? You looked amazing. But that should not matter. What do you have to offer as a person, an candidate? How can what you wear determine how well you can do the job? They have done you a favour because if this is how they treat people then imagine how you would be treated working for them. Bless and release!

    1. Well, it beats me till now. I didn’t know looking good and wearing a nice outfit for an interview is a No No for some organisations lol. Interestingly, it is a management role. I have blessed and released!

  6. K. That is THE WORST. I’m sorry to hear that happened to you! I’ve worked in lots of corporate settings where the majority is men… and I have to say that dressing as a woman in that kind of setting can be so challenging! I love your outfit- that colour is dreamy. But for some reason, it seems like men can’t reconcile the fact that a woman can look good and take pride in her appearance (aka wear nice makeup and put an interesting outfit together), AND STILL do her damn job. Jeez. I guess just wear black for your next interview? And then once you get the job, show up in leopard print head to toe! hahaha!
    xo Chelsea | https://completelychelsea.com

    1. Chelsea! You are my kinda woman! Hahahahhaha. Sassy! I read this just when I was about leaving the office and I was like I am not any quick response to this! I don’t know why people see a pretty face and then conclude they are stupid. For a babe who has won several awards both at school and on the job, it was an insult to be labelled as “incapable” simply because i looked good and dressed well! It is their loss Lol. I’ll consider black next time but not too sold about the idea but I do like the part about showing up with leopard print head to toe! That would be the day! Hahahahhaha. Thanks Chelsea for this outlook!

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