Mentally strong people do well in handling their habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behavior in ways that set them up for success in life.
A conversation i had recently with a friend about mentally strong people prompted this blog post. I believe habits can be changed by working on them! The activities we engage in, form the habits that influence things around us.
I have had lots of moments where throwing in the towel seems to be the only option but the fear of failure is one thing i do not want to give a chance in my life! No way.
The only option then is to develop a thick skin. Be more mentally strong. Build habits that will help you achieve that.
Its a journey. Not a day's "job".
Table Of Contents
- Ten Things Mentally Strong People Do Not Do
- You Don’t Run Away from Change
- You Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
- You Don’t Dwell On The Past
- You Don’t Make Same Mistakes Over and Over
- You Don’t Fear Quiet Moments
- You Don’t Expect Immediate Results
- You Don’t Feel The World Owes You Anything
- You Don’t Feel bitter About Other People’s Success
- You Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
- You Don’t Waste Energy On Things You Can’t Control
Ten Things Mentally Strong People Do Not Do
I bet you didn't know you possess all these amazing attributes of a mentally strong person! If you are one, then you definitely possess some of these attributes according to experts.
You Don’t Run Away from Change
Darling the only thing constant in life is change!
Much of our ability to experience inner peace and happiness rests without willingness to accept change. Life is not static, it is dynamic. It is often difficult to leave behind the familiar past and venture into untraveled territories, so we cling to ideas, habits and people we should let go.
Many people do not want anything that will alter their norms of comfort, they could go on and on like that for life. They do not want to imagine what is on the other side of the fence, or out there in the woods.
Different is the case of mentally strong people; they don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change.
They recognize that change is unavoidable and have faith in in their capabilities to adapt.
You Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
Life itself is risk. That is the reality.
Most people leave decision making in the hands of wishes; “I wish it would not rain today, so I can do this and that, and if not, I’d just wait.”
Different is the mentally strong person; “I am prepared for anything today!”
Mentally strong people don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. They spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.
You Don’t Dwell On The Past
My previous relationship "haunted" me for long! I have only begun to recover genuinely from the whole experience. I had a hard talk with myself. What is all the bottling up doing to me? The bitterness? The feelings of failure and all that baggage i have been carrying about.
Absolutely nothing i tell you! Rather, i was getting more bitter and transposing on unrelated persons. I had to get my shit together. Either that or have a mental breakdown. It was that bad.
It is human. You are human. Not perfect. Grieve, cry, take out your frustration on your punching bag but don't hold on to the past. It belongs to the past. Leave it there!
“I failed the last one, so I am not taking the exams again!” Oh, some people might be sympathetic to such talk, but definitely not a mentally strong person. They don’t waste time lodging on the past and wishing things were different; “Oh I wish I was born in a rich family, how I wish I had a smaller nose.” Oh well, i do wish i was born with smaller ears lol. Never mind.
They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve cultured from it. They look to the future, with a definite plan to conquer it. “However it had been, I’d still make it fine.”
That is their mentality. The past is gone. I am facing the future, Squarely.
You Don’t Make Same Mistakes Over and Over
If i had a dime for every mistake i repeated, i would be very rich. I am learning though.
Even robots make mistakes! We all know that. Right.
It is when making these mistakes become a habit, that we can identify a major problem. Mentally strong people make mistakes, but they don’t stop there, they make sure they never make such mistakes again.
Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future. They accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes.
You Don’t Fear Quiet Moments
I like my own company. I always had. It was a problem for my parents when i was growing up. They didn't understand why i would prefer staying in my room reading and writing.
I do socialize. Meaningful ones. Thank you. I am more productive during those quiet moments.
Mentally strong people recognize their alone times and quiet moments as opportunities to think or plan something for their lives. Those times are not seen as moments of loneliness.
They don’t crave for audience at all times.
Enjoying their own company and not dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use those moments to be productive.
You Don’t Expect Immediate Results
Mentally strong people learn to wait for time. They understand that not everything happens immediately. That will not deter them from investing in things that may take forever to yield results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real revolution takes time.
You Don’t Feel The World Owes You Anything
Mentally strong people look for opportunities based on their own merits. They feel they should work for whatever they get, and when anything comes free, it is another opportunity for expansion.
They don't have grandiose ideas that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something for them to make it.
If they get help from others, fine but they make their way.
You Don’t Feel bitter About Other People’s Success
Mentally strong people don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. They see it as an opportunity to set a new benchmark. They recognize that success does not just come around, so they work harder to get a go at more success.
Being mentally strong, means you appreciate and celebrate other peoples' success stories and that you would even want to learn a thing or two from them.
That is how they roll.
You Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
Not everyone sees things the way you see them, but you must ensure that you take constructive criticism. Some people would say “They only like people with suits and long short hair, so I must get those.” You’d find out that some other people do not like it like that.
Mentally strong people only do the things that matters to their goals, not to please everyone all the time. They may strive to be kind and fair, but can definitely handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.
You Don’t Waste Energy On Things You Can’t Control
Some people spend all their time lamenting about some events they can in no way handle; “If only I was taller, If the president was my relative.”
You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They quickly recognize that it is their attitude towards events that matters.
Mentally strong people are not born like that, they are made by deliberate decisions and actions. Dare to be one!
I recently carried out what is known as KAIZEN training in the organisation I work with. Training was for everyone, from the shop floor personnel to senior managers.
A slide from the training reads
"EXCELLENCE IS NOT AN ACT. IT IS AN HABIT. EXCELLENCE IS ACHIEVED THROUGH PRACTICE AND PERSEVERANCE"
As the trainer, it was profound for me and it holds a strong meaning.
I believe this holds true to becoming a mentally strong person. Develop habits, practice them and we are on our way to becoming better persons.
What other attributes of mentally strong people have you come across or have as a person? Hope to hear from you all. Have a fantastic week KQ Tribe!